Now we need to take a break in our baby story telling to answer another question that has come up in the comments. Do we practice attachment parenting? Rather than answer that yes or no (and since it's a philosophy, therefore open to interpretation) let me just say what we do and don't do as parents.
*sleep with our babies
Why? Because it makes the baby happy, and makes nighttime nursing 100 times easier for me. Chuck gets to bond with the baby, and the baby learn to recognize daddy and his scent. Chuck works construction, so sometimes in the summer he doesn't get home until the children are in their jammies and ready for bed. This gives the baby plenty of time with him.
We have personally had no trouble transitioning our babies to their own cribs/beds. I believe this is because the baby usually naps in his/her crib. Therefore, the baby is perfectly used to sleeping by themselves. As the baby gets a bit older we begin putting the baby into the crib at night and he/she sleeps there until he wakes for his first feeding. After that, he stays in bed with us for the rest. This gives the baby "practice" sleeping in his crib, and us a few hours before we have our little visitor.
*exclusively breastfeed and believe in baby-led weaning
I have breastfed all of my babies (including the adopted ones). I know all about how difficult it can be. Adalia was 2 1/2 weeks early, tiny, and sleepy. Nursing her took every ounce of determination I had. The same tenacity that got me through her labor, got me through those first months of nursing. It was difficult and painful and generally miserable. But we made it past that (with zero supplements) and she went on to nurse for nearly a year. My babies have nursed from 6 months (Judah and Enoch who both had siblings on the way by the time they were 3 months old) to a year and a half for the rest. None of the babies have taken pacifiers or had supplements.
* hold our babies a lot
You won't see us hauling our babies around in carseats or strollers. Why? No particular reason other than I like to hold my babies, and they like to be held. My two favorite baby carriers are the Maya Wrap and Ergo.
* I don't leave my babies (even with Chuck) until they are old enough to survive a few hours without nursing
It seems to me that God designed babies and mothers perfectly…I can't leave my two week old baby because they need to nurse frequently. I can take a shower, or a nap, not not drive off alone. As the baby gets bigger, I can be gone for longer and longer periods. So, in essence, the baby is attached to me until he/she is old enough to predictably go a few hours without eating.
*We do believe in bedtime
As you know if you are a regular reader all of our children, teens included are in bed at 8 o'clock (and up at 7 AM). The older ones read or listen to music. This gives Chuck and I time alone as a couple and me a few precious child-free hours
* We keep our children with us in church
Everyone from the baby, to restless toddlers and social teens sit with us. We don't put the little ones in the nursery or have our older ones sit with friends.
*We believe in saying no and enforcing boundries…including blanket time
Blanket time is what we call training a toddler to stay and play on a blanket. It is wonderful for focus, concentration and self-discipline.
I hope that answers the question of whether or not we practice "attachment parenting"