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Not What I Planned

Keeping perspective this summer.This summer hasn’t been going along as I planned. There is schoolwork I would like done, organizing I want to be doing. We haven’t made it to the beach yet. We still need to pick blueberries (quickly, before the season is over). Instead we’ve had too many doctor’s visits, the nevery-ending-room-swap-project. I really want to get a jumpstart on planning homeschooling for the fall. Our debt reduction is coming along too slowly (I have to remind myself we have paid for a wedding in cash, managed to get Judah and Tilly on their Teen Missions trips and are doing some necessary house maintinence…all while slowly reducing our debt).  Keeping perspective this summer.

Apollo is again having frequent stridor. I am worried about his upcoming surgery, mainly because we won’t know exactly what is going to be done until he is under anesthesia and the ENT does the sleep endoscopy and bronchoscopy. I don’t know whether to hope he still has significant laryngomalacia so it can be surgically fixed…or hope it has improved and he doesn’t need his larynx trimmed (regardless of the results, he will be having his tonsils removed and any adenoids that have grown back).

Keeping perspective this summer.

I am in the midst of writing a medical memoir of our journey through the maze of our modern medical system. You think I’ve shared a lot on this blog? There is so much that has never been said here for a variety of reasons, but those events and conversations will be in my book, I assure you.

Keeping perspective this summer.

I take copious notes at each doctor’s visit, and going over every blog entry written about Apollo, every note taken and every page of his medical records is emotionally taxing.  When you see it laid out in a four-year time line, it is astounding to see how obvious his problems were from the very beginning and is mind-boggling that it took 18 months for a diagnosis. Medical missteps and errors are glaring. Apollo’s medical records conflict with themselves, with what the doctors have said and with his actual anatomy.Keeping perspective this summer.So nothing has gone as I planned. It is discouraging. I’m pretty sure I have tendonitis (in my left elbow, of all places) and need to get in to see my doctor, but haven’t had time. This makes it nearly impossible for me to: fold laundry, carry a laundry basket, do dishes or do much of anything with my left arm (any movement is extremely painful). Add that to my teens all being gone (Enoch and Kalina are house sitting) and it is leaving me short-handed and short-armed.

Keeping perspective this summer. Keeping perspective this summer.

Thankfully, I have these faces to look at. The kids are, I believe, having a fabulous summer. Berry picking, swimming, trips to the lake. Ice cream making, popsicle devouring. They aren’t missing the math drills or handwriting practice. They are experiencing the age-old joy of long, lazy summer days.

So I am soaking in their faces and their laughter. Remembering how endless the possibilities seem when you are eight or nine and have the whole summer stretched out before you. When anything is possible.

Because really, it is.





  1. Michele P@Family, Faith and Fridays

    OH, I hear your heart, Renee. I am worn out, just wrote a post for Friday about it, and I do not have a tenth of the stress you have. Praying for you- for a renewal of strength and spirit, You are not alone! Praying for sweet Apollo- that doctors will solve the puzzle and help get him healthy!

  2. Katherine

    I got the same thing with my left elbow….arm…the whole thing got stuffed up from overuse. The only thing that helped was switching sides on the bed so I didn’t turn onto my left side to sleep, resting it and NOT carrying heavy things. I have always had a ‘can do all’ attitude but I learnt the hard way from over using something (my arm) until nearly the point of no return. I absolutely hear you on the pain factor!

  3. Heidi Jayne

    I had horrible tendonitis in my right elbow years. No matter wha Dr’s did it came back frequently. It is yet another part of me YL essential oils has healed for me,I am still in shock and awe at how many ways they have blessed me and “given me my life back! Anyone is welcome to join my Facebook group Bee Oily~ Heidi’s Young living Essential Oil Group A place to learn, ask questions and share testimonies. We can all learn together.

  4. Amy S.

    Before I scrolled enough to see your comment about their faces, in my head I was thinking…..but look at those happy faces – she’s obviously doing something VERY right. Keep up the good work that you do every day. Your children are testament to the fact that you are an amazing parent.

    • bakersdozenandapolloxiv

      Thank you. They *are* happy…now if I can just get them well-trained and educated as well. LOL

  5. Caroline

    Strength for you. Strength for all of us Mums. Cyber hugs to anyone that needs one today! (But gently in case their arm hurts. )

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