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Happy Birthday, Adalia {18}

Today is Adalia’s 18th birthday. I think that you will all agree with me that it simply is not possible for a child I gave birth to, to be an adult. Nope, I’m sure it’s not true.

But then I have this picture of me and Chuck 18 years ago today. Adalia was born in a birth center up in Alaska; delivered by a wonderful midwife. There was a snowstorm and her labor took forever. She broke my tailbone with her tiny six pound frame. 

She was so tiny and perfect.

I remember marveling over the miracle of my baby. Our baby. Half Chuck, half me. It seemed impossible. And yet, there she was.

I had so many ideas and plans. I would be the Best Mom Ever (really). I would breastfeed (check), wear her in a sling/carrier (only she hated it), co-sleep (that only lasted 4 months- she was happier in her crib). We would take her everywhere with us, so she would be flexible and learn to sleep anywhere (um…didn’t work). She was  wild and crazy. Precious and precocious. I often wondered what I was doing wrong, when I saw Other People’s Babies. Adalia was only happy when being entertained. She only slept for 45 minutes at a time. She projectile vomited (they weren’t diagnosing reflux 18 years ago).

We were madly in love with her. She threw most of my parenting theories out of the window in her first year. And second year. And third.

But she grew and we grew and our family grew.

And now she’s grown.

I taught her to read and write. She taught me to be a mom. I’ve brought her joy and tears. She’s loved me and at moments, I’m sure, hated me.

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And now she’s getting married. To an amazing guy I would have hand-picked for her had I met him first. But I didn’t need to, because God did.

Happy Birthday, Adalia! I can’t wait to visit you two in New Zealand.



  1. Penny

    Happy birthday to your firstborn! Mine are adults (and parents) and I’m with you, that simply cannot be possible. But there it is. It’s funny how the first child breaks all your plans up for you and then teaches you to be something better than you ever imagined!

  2. Caitlin

    Has Adalia moved to New Zeland already? Happy Birthday, little miss! Nothing but the best to you and your beau on this birthday and all that come after 🙂

  3. Tara Bergeron

    Love it! Wonderful post about Adalia. I have to call and talk more about this whole child to teen to adult transition. I’m sure things may be a bit hairy when we come in April/May.

  4. vivian

    my first will be 48 this year…looking bad truly breaks my heart…i have forgotten so many of the beautiful moments but she will always be my baby girl.

  5. Lindsay

    Aw, so sweet and so true. Having recently launched one daughter into adulthood and awaiting the birth of the youngest daughter in a few weeks, this particularly resonates.

    You are an amazing mama with incredible kids. What a beautiful young woman Adalia is.

    “But I didn’t need to, because God did”…chokes me up and melts my heart 🙂

    • bakersdozenandapolloxiv

      Thank you, Lindsay….And I hope you realize you won’t be able to avoid me once that baby girl is born…I need some newborn snuggles!

  6. Melpub

    What a wonderful story. I also find it impossible to believe that my fifteen-year-old is taller than me AND my husband, that my eleven-year-old has bigger feet, and that the “little one” is so big . . .

  7. Heidi Wilson

    Happy 18th Birthday Adalia!! What a momentous and wonderful year this is going to be for you! I pray God’s blessing and protection over you this year as you begin a new, wonderful and exciting chapter in your life!

    Ranee I hope you will be able to make a stop over in Australia during one of your trips to NZ – specifically Sydney as it would be AWESOME to meet you in person!!

    I don’t know how it is that I’ve been reading your blog for as long as I have (two years now I think) and I’ve never realized that Adalia’s birthday is the same day as my James – who turned 8 years old today! I see glimpses of the big boy/man he is becoming and it makes me proud and sad all at the same time!! Time speeds by… really and truly it does!

    Happy “becoming a mother” day to you! Adalia is a beautiful young woman and I love hearing any and all news that you are able to share about her life on your blog!!

    • bakersdozenandapolloxiv

      I can almost guarantee I’ll head to Australia in a future trip! It has been my goal since I was 17 or 18 to sell all the continents (except Antarctica). Only Australia is the only one left. Obviously, this trip to NZ wasn’t the time to take a side journey to Australia, but I will in the future. We are so “close” at that point and it doesn’t cost all that much to fly over. Of course I want to see Sydney…unfortunately I have friends all the way over in Western Australia…Anyway, when I do head over, I’ll certainly post it on the blog and see who I can meet up with while I am there!

  8. Erica Sargent

    I think this is the most perfect post. Ever. Thank you .
    Our youngest is two, but the day I turned 40 weeks pregnant with him, I was ordering cap and gown for our oldest. I didn’t know I had that many tears.
    Motherhood is a most wonderful blessing of a journey, is it not?

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