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The Care and Keeping of Teens

The care and keeping of teens. Hygiene tips from the World's Best Mom.

We’ve reached a new low in parenting. It’s called Pay Your Teen to Shower.

Here’s how it works:

Start with one oppositional teen who refuses to shower. 

Set up a shower schedule, in our case: Wednesday and Saturday.

Lay out clear expectations: Teen must: wash hair, get body clean, use deodorant, put on clean clothes.

If this job is completed, teen get five bucks.

Yes, my friends, it is now costing us $10 a week to keep our teen (relatively) clean. I didn’t see that category in Dave Ramsey’s budgeting forms.

On the bright side, this has been so transformational his teacher tentatively asked me about it recently.

That’s success right there.

I may as well collect my Mother of the Year award right now. 

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  1. Steph B

    You gotta do what you gotta do. I have a 13 year old who showers, but almost never washes his hair. It’s terrible.

  2. Christine

    Right there with you! We paid our teenager $10 to clean up her room, which usually made a pig sty look like a minimalist paradise. We also paid generously for her to walk the dog, empty the garbage, etc. — anything to associate the idea of getting money with the idea of DOING something to make the world a better place. This was against a backdrop of her working hard in school and going to extra tutoring because of her learning disabilities, though. But I think establishing a positive set of habits is worth paying a few bucks for. Maybe the idea of showing will grow on your teen.

  3. Cecily Spencer

    Actually I am inspired! Even if kids came with instruction manuals or special needs kidos rewrite it into some alien language only they understand. Thanks for sharing. We are not alone, it just feels like it.

  4. Peg

    You know what? This is pretty cool. It is hard to get people who have FASD make connections of actions to consequences (they can be positive too!). I like it!
    I am curious…..what does said teen do with his money? Are you able to make more connections?

    • bakersdozenandapolloxiv

      I have to admit…this system is getting shaky and I really hope it lasts. Every other time we have set up a reward chart/system, it works for a very short time and then he jumps right to the reward and is angry when he doesn’t get it. Oh, I hope this doesn’t happen this time! He uses his money to buy video games, DVDs and stuffed animal…though now he is getting mad that he can’t spend all day looking for things to buy on Amazon…

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