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Attendance Matters. So Does Not Breaking Your Website.

Reading at the table. My kids are book lovers, there is no doubt.

Attendance Matters. So Does Not Breaking Your Website.Reading at the table. My kids are book lovers, there is no doubt.

Can I Be Real for a Minute?

My son with autism hasn’t been to school in over two weeks. He’s missed 30 days of school so far this school year, and many more classes when he has shown up late. Thirty days. That’s six weeks of school. Why hasn’t he gone to school? Your guess is a good as mine, though the doctor says it is anxiety keeping him home. Since verbal communication is such a challenge for him, much of his life is a guessing game.

But, Renee, you ask. Doesn’t the law require him to attend school?

Why yes, yes it does. And since he hasn’t been to school in weeks I keep getting Nasty Scary Letters in the mail explaining to me that my child is chronically absent (thanks for noticing) and don’t I know, attendance matters? I do, in fact, know that attendance matters and nobody, nobody wants him at school more than me, I guarantee that.

I am trying to work with the school (and my son’s doctor) but nothing, nothing is slower than bureaucracy especially if the bureaucracy is government run. There is so much more I want to say…but I won’t.

For now.

School attendance matters. So does not breaking your website.

That Time I Broke My Website and Dropped Off the Face of the Planet

Also, I broke my website last week.

In a major way. I spent hours with tech support trying to get it fixed. It is fixed now, mostly. I have just a handful of posts that need to be updated and then we’re good. Once again I learned that Renee should never, ever, be allowed to touch the backend of a website. Even when tech support tells me I should just do something myself because “is so simple” there is no reason to hire it out.


So, that is why I was absent here (attendance matters) all last week. I was also warned not to make any changes to my site while it was down because they would disappear once we “fixed” it.

And you know what’s better than breaking your website? Spending hours updating and fixing two posts, asking people to share them, and then breaking your website.

Go, me.

So here I am back. Ready to take on the week, do a whole lot of laundry, and fight for my kids.

And please, re-checkout my posts Meal Plans and Grocery Shopping in a Large Family and Protecting the Gift of Fear.


  1. Tanya Redfield

    Any chance autistic son could do some school online? It doesn’t solve the need for interaction with others but could be a start back into things to build his confidence until he is ready to face a physical classroom again?
    One of my sons is on the spectrum and I can identify with your nasty letters. Ironically, they would often call me to come and get him because of his screaming fits. I told them not to…he is also extremely bright and quickly figured out what he needed to do to go home. But to add insult to injury, I would then get those nasty letters. Don’t worry about it, they are automatic, they said. THEN. MAKE. THEM. STOP.
    UGH I love and support our teachers and staff. I hate the system and the one size fits all approach to education.

    • Renee

      That’s a complicated question. In theory, I suppose he could. Unfortunately, since adolescence has come (and he’s gotten bigger), he won’t do any “non-preferred” activities without constant prompts, reminders (and ususally, not at all). If the school will send a teacher/tutor out, the ABA therapist can and will help him. As far as expecting him to sit and do online work? He wouldn’t cooperate. Also, of course, in addition to the autism he has FASD which means he needs a lot of help in every subject.

    • Renee

      M is a complicated creature…he is not self-motivated and with his special needs he does not have the ability to work independently.

  2. sarah

    Hi Rene,
    I wanted to share, I have several kids with anxiety, and we have discovered that Neurofeedback is amazing. I have put 3 of my 5 kids through it and am amazed with the results. From better sleep, to anxiety, to dyslexia, neurofeedback has helped it all. It also has helped with ADHD, but honestly, that was more of a natural side effect from doing the therapy. 🙂 We sacrifice to pay for it, but it’s worth every penny.

    • Renee

      I look into this when you mentioned it before. Unfortunately we don’t have anywhere nearby and our insurance won’t cover it. We have used every penny we have and more (literally) to get appropriate care for our kids with special needs. We have no more reserves nor can we take on more debt.

  3. Melpub

    Another idea: crowdfunding. I never knew much about it, suddenly really needed money for cancer treatment, and wrote a very direct, detailed plea. Had to send to fifty email addresses, but the whole thing took less than 20 minutes. If you have a clear sense of exactly how much you need and what you need it for, I think this is a good method. I used GoFundMe.

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